Sleeve Notes
We all have been at one time or another. Sometimes it's one of those passing moments in life, which we are able to notice and reset ourselves.
What about when it becomes more than just a passing moment and you've chosen to make it part of your life in a way that's becoming unhealthy?
If it's become a deep obsession or unhealthy habit and is affecting you mentally and/or physically, you may want to seek support from a therapist or counsellor in the first instance.
If, however you feel you are ready to embrace a different future, curate your own world, and you are not quite sure where to start...a few coaching sessions could be just the thing!
Here are some thoughts for you to consider...
Side one - If I can't have you! - Doing things you don't really want or need to do in case you miss out on something.
Going to events/parties because everyone else is, not because you want to.
Using dating sights as a candy shop for casual encounters even though this is not what you really want - never knowing when to stop...is there someone better round the corner?
Overuse of selfies/locations to create your 'perfect' life to make others envious or jealous.
Binging on things because other people say how good it is, even if you know it's not healthy for you or what you want to do.
Buying things you don't want or need, maybe for some of the reasons in 'Side two' below.
Aspiring to a career your friends have because it looks 'cool', even though you know/or don't know yet, your skill set would be better suited to something you would find more worthwhile and enjoyable.
Relying on social media to dictate how your life should be, whether it be good or bad for you.
Side two - Causing a commotion - Some FOMO triggers
Coercion, by marketeers/media for example.
Scarcity, created by marketeers who want you to believe if you don't buy it now, you'll never have it/lose out.
Perfect Images of people having it all, beautiful, rich, happy....really?
Envy - They've got what I want!...really, is this leaning towards resentment?
Jealousy - I'll show them I have their 'perfect life' too.
Pressure from others - To fit in with their 'norm'.
Wanting to be popular - Even if it doesn't feel genuine for you.
Wanting to be noticed - I've got what you want, even if it's not what I really want or need.
Wanting to feel better - Soothing yourself with unnecessary purchases.
Seeking thrills - It's risky, but I can't stop myself because I don't want anyone else to have them.
Side three - STOP right now...thank you very much! - Reducing FOMO with coaching questions for yourself.
Pause & reflect - How this is helping me?
Be choosy - What can enhance the quality rather than the quantity of my experience?
Own experience - What do I feel fulfilled (rather than emptied) by?
Acceptance - What do I really need (not desire) now in my life?
Focus - What is the one thing that will add value to my life now?
Perspective - What is going to happen to me personally if I miss out on...?
(Facts only please)
Gratitude - Set aside what/who I haven't got. What/who have I got that brings me happiness?
People - How do I benefit from acquisition relationships over genuine quality relationships?
Sex - How can I savour the moment/s and build healthy relationships, instead of rushing on to the next thrill?
FOMO - What facts do I have, appropriate to my life, to say I'm the one missing out on this?
Side four - START me up - Get going with YOUR OWN LIFE, curated by you!
Reset - What goals can I set that are genuine for me and are both achievable & exciting?
Reset - What do these goals involve?
Reset - Who are the people I trust to support me and offer no judgement?
Reset - How will I know these goals are mine and not ones I have created for other people?
Reset - How have I reduced my FOMO by setting my own goals?
The Download
A number of questions to ask yourself there!
If it's feeling kinda lonely answering them, get in touch here.
I can help you work through them so the only life you are curating is your own and not living it through someone else's.
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