Ask yourself...how important is my relationship? Then take my coaching quiz!

ian37712
Apr 14
2 min read

It's a key question to ask yourself if you believe your relationship needs reframing, you are being misunderstood, taken for granted, unsure of what to say to your friend/partner of 6 months, 6 or 60 years!!

If none of this is important to you, perhaps you should move on or move out and stop reading here!

So, your relationship is important then?

In which case...

When was the last time you really listened to your Partner without interruption?
When was the last time you told your Partner what is important to you?
When was the last time you asked your Partner what is important to them?
When was the last time you told your partner the impact they've made on you?
When was the last time your partner told you the impact you've made on them?
When was the last time you made time for meaningful conversation?

What can get in your way...

Assuming what your partner wants will always be the same.
Lack of empathy.
Being lazy and doing what you've always done.
Presuming conflict rather than life affirming resolution.
Fearful of the reaction you may get instead of being true to yourself.
Basing opinions on perceptions rather than reality.

What can get you out of your own way...

Be grateful for & accepting of compliments.
Be understanding, even if you don't agree.
Be prepared to compromise, if it's that important.
Be gender fluid, don't stick with your 'own kind' all of the time. (Learn something new from someone new!)
Be willing to do something or be someone better.
Look for solutions rather than finding more problems.
Accept you cannot change peoples behaviour, they have to want to do this themselves.