Why you are not ready for a Coach...and when you are. The definitive guide!

Bad experiences

Perhaps you've worked with a so called 'Coach' only to find out they had their own agenda, gave you lots of advice & feedback you didn't ask for and you came away with a lack of trust & feeling not in control of your own future.

The downside of being a genuine coach like me is the industry is not regulated, so anyone can call themselves a coach.

A real Coach will always have what is important to you at the heart of the conversation, ask open questions, listen actively and challenge respectfully to help you make your own informed decisions. You should leave each session feeling in control of your destiny, with a hint of personal challenge & excitement around what is to come.

Feeling there is nothing more to learn

Maybe that's true for now, but the world doesn't stand still and if it ends up leaving you behind and having an affect on you then perhaps it's time to consider how a Coach can help you make sense of this.

If you are feeling somewhat satisfied with life, powerful, confident...whatever the feeling might be, this is a great time to engage a Coach.

Don't let your sense of security fool you into believing there is nothing left to learn. There always is and one thing a Coach can do is support you to create a new agenda for yourself.

Fear of the unknown

This headline relates to a desire not to feel vulnerable, resisting change, wondering what's going to come out of the conversation and who else will know about it!

Well for starters, unless you tell me you've committed a crime, it's between you and me. It's up to you if you want to share it with anyone else.

We will have a good conversation first to make sure we can work well together and discuss what you want to get out of the sessions.

Only then will we agree if we are moving forward together and if it doesn't feel right, I will be honest with you and will expect you to be too.

Vulnerability, flexibility, adaptability & being open to change is up to you, without it though you're unlikely to succeed with what you hope to achieve.

Unwilling to be accountable

Maybe you don't think you are accountable for anything? We are all accountable for something or someone, at some point in our lives.

Maybe unwilling actually means unsure, uneasy or fearful if you decide to hold yourself accountable.

A Coach can help you to navigate this and create an accountability (or partnering , if you prefer) which works for you and those around you.

Stigma

Some people will see Coaching as something you do when you have failed or have been perceived to fail. Nothing could be further from the truth.

In fact Coaching is about exploring what you do well and capitalising on this together with finding out what you want to do differently to make your future one which works for you.

Coaching is not about past & problems it's about future and solutions!

Impatience

Not everything in life can happen yesterday and this also applies to coaching. That doesn't mean you have to wait for months or years to see any changes. You are in control of the pace. I'm hear to creatively challenge your thinking through targeted questions which help you feel motivated, challenged and excited to achieve results in a timeframe which suits your lifestyle.

Unwilling to be challenged

Perhaps you see challenge in a negative way?

Coaching is all about agreed respectful and helpful challenge. It is also about understanding why challenge is challenging for you and what you could do differently to make life better for you, in a safe & confidential environment.

You see it as a cost

Then you won't respect Coaching or it's process. While knowing you get value for money is as important to me as it will be for you, this is about investing in yourself, not spending money to tick a box for the sake of it.

If you are not ready to invest in your own growth and development you are not ready for coaching.

You don't want to think or talk about the future

That's OK, however there will come a time when you are ready to and I will be waiting.

You may need to work through the past or problems first, in which case a counsellor or therapist may be the answer in this instance.

You're happy with how things are

For now...but are you really?

Is that it for your life?

Are you sure there is not something more you want to do with your life but maybe don't know where to begin? That's where I come in!

You have no time

Well, investment in yourself at the moment may not be important to you, but ask yourself first, am I in the best place either personally, professionally or both to be helpful to myself and others?

If it's that important, you'll make the time.

I don't do fluffy stuff

Neither do I!

If you think coaching is fluffy then you are either doing it with the wrong person or you view it as a nice to do rather than an investment in your personal growth.

Of course you don't need coaching all the time, but can you identify when it would be helpful for you and so can I, so...

Get in touch HERE and we can talk about it in confidence & without obligation. I can't say fairer than that!